UCSD Disability and Sexuality

Discussion Board Questions 

  1. Prior to watching the film, what were your assumptions about disability and sexuality? 
  2. After watching the film, explain how your perspectives changed or stayed the same? 
  3. What was the most impactful part of the film and why? 

Respond #1

  1. Prior to watching the film, what were your assumptions about disability and sexuality?

Prior to watching the film, my assumptions about disability and sexuality are that one cannot control or chose their disability and sexuality. One cannot picked to be disabled or not. The same thing goes for sexuality. It just so happens that people can get unlucky and be born with a disability which is totally out of their control. Same with sexuality. People are born with their sexuality. They do not choose to be a certain sexuality, or else the world would be a very different place.

  1. After watching the film, explain how your perspectives changed or stayed the same?

After watching the film, my perspectives have stayed the same. In my response before I watched the film, I stated that people cannot pick and choose whether they are disabled or not. Same thing for their sexuality, they cannot choose their sexual orientation. They can hide their sexual orientation or act differently so people do not know their real sexual orientation, but this still does not change the fact of what their real sexuality is.

  1. What was the most impactful part of the film and why?

The most impactful part of the film was the segment about the paraplegic women in the wheelchair. This part was very impactful for me because it made me realize just how quick life can change. This women had everything going for her, she was engaged, she was a model, and she was healthy. After she got in that car accident, her entire life changed. It just made me think about how quick your life can change and it makes you appreciate what you have.

Respond #2 1.Prior to watching the film, what were your assumptions about disability and sexuality?

Before watching the film, I assumed that most people with disabilities have a hard time expressing their sexual feelings and finding someone who loves them for who they are. I think that a large portion of the disability community ask themselves the same question, “Who is ever gonna love me?” I assumed that these people have a hard time loving themselves sometimes, so why would anyone else love them? But I believe that everybody is good enough, everyone is beautifully different, and everybody deserves to be loved!

2. After watching the film, explain how your perspectives changed or stayed the same?

After watching the film, it has shown a lot of light on the variety of relationships that people with disabilities can have. I feel like the couples in this movie love each other more than able-bodied couples because they put in all this hard work to make their significant other happy, and it’s so cute. Additionally, the movie also showed me how frustrating trying to find love is when you have a disability because most people only see you as your disability, and not as the person behind the disability.

3. What was the most impactful part of the film and why?

The most impactful part of the film for me was the story of the dancer who got into a car accident, and lost the ability to move her legs. She became self-conscious over her body, but her boyfriend does not care that she needs extra help in her daily life. As he says it himself, “I’m with an amazing woman, who happens to be in a chair.” He looks past her physical features to what really matters to him, how kind she is, how loving she is, and how much joy she brings into his world. This part impacted me the most because he starts to tear up, and at that time, I get emotional as well. I’m glad that these two found each other, because it looks like true love.

Respond #3 1. Prior to watching the film, what were your assumptions about disability and sexuality?

Prior to watching this film, I was not naive to the fact that disability and sexuality can coexist. People deserve emotional, mental, and physical love. I can understand why and how individuals believe that people with disabilities cannot be sexual or that they do not have sex. However, it is 2021 and I really enjoy the fact that we can be open about this type of material. Sex and sexuality is a human right, everyone deserves to engage in it regardless of what others believe about them.

2. After watching the film, explain how your perspectives changed or stayed the same?

I am not sure that any of my perspectives drastically changed after watching the film. However, I loved to learn all of the different perspectives. I think it is great to see the variability in individuals as people tend to group disabled people all together and may believe that they are all having the same experience. Overall, I think there needs to be more representation so that a person does not have to take a disability class to understand how sexuality and disability coexist.

3. What was the most impactful part of the film and why?

The most impactful part of the film included the section of the man talking about how women will often say things like, “They don’t make them like you anymore” but yet he still struggles to find love as an adult. He sees all of these opportunities for love yet he is not receiving anything which would be confusing for anyone. Another part that struck me was the story of the woman and her boyfriend, Patrick. Her story about survival and her mourning his loss was incredibly eye-opening. For those who acquired their disability, they can potentially have a confusing journey to finding love again. In her instance, it was hard for her to love herself and then love someone else again because of her traumatic experience. I think that is a part about love, sex, and disability that I failed to think of before starting this film.

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