COMMUNICATION SKILLS PROJECT
DUE IN CLASS ON _______________________
TOTAL POINTS AVAILABLE: 35
You are to fill out the following worksheet that analyzes one aspect of your
communication skills over the course of this
semester. Please follow the steps below.
Choose one problem that you currently have with communication with one person in
1) Who the person is you have chosen?
2) Briefly describe your relationship with that person
How do you know them? What
is your relationship like?)
Bob is my brother
law. He has been married to my sister for the past 17 years. We
have a cold and distant relationship.
3) Describe (with examples) the communication problem you are having with t
The problem I am having is that Bob does not seem to want to talk to me. I try to talk to
him and he is busy, makes excuses in order to avoid me, walks away or simply ignores
me. For example, when I was at his house for dinner last Sunday, I t
ried to talk to him
and he told me he was busy, walked into the garage and started working on his car. He
closed the door when I tried to follow him in there.
4) Write out a sample dialogue, a typical conversation you have had with that
that illustrates the problem you are having.
Hey Bob, it’s great to see you! How are things going?
I’m doing fine. I’m actually really busy right now.
What are you up to?
I’m working on my car pro
ject. I don’t have time to talk
But I haven’t seen you in a while and I just want to catch up
I have to go.
But Bob, I really want to talk to you
Why don’t you help your sister in the kitchen? I’m going in the garage
Can I come with you?
(walks into the garage and slams the door)
5) Choose ONE communication topic from this class that relates to the problem you are
having (circle it):
distorted self concept, self fulfilling
prophecy, perception checking,
language, difference be
tween hearing and listening, why humans are poor listeners,
types of nonlistening, how to become a better listener,
Stages of Relationship Development, Johari Window,
Confirming and disconfirming communicatio
n, Defensiveness, Defense
mechanisms, Preventing defensiveness in others(Gibb cat
egories), Conflict styles
6) Relate that topic (the same one circled in #5) to the communication problem you have
described in #3.
I chose self disclos
ure because I believe this topic from class relates to the problem I
am having. Self Disclosure is the process of revealing personal information about
yourself. One of the characteristics of self disclosure is that it is necessary for
I feel like my relationship with Bob is cold and distant because
he is uncomfortable with self disclosure. We also learned in class that unbalanced
self disclosure can make one partner in the relationship uncomfortable. I certainly
have felt uncomfortable
in the relationship due to Bob’s lack of self disclosure.
7) How could the problem be improved? (what can YOU do to help solve the problem,
even if it is not you that is primarily at fault
I think I may be approaching Bob at a bad time. I should ask h
im to go out for a beer
with me on a day of his choosing so it is a time when he is not busy working on his car.
I can also ask my sister if she knows what I might have done to cause Bob to want to
avoid me. If the problem is that Bob is uncomfortable with
self disclosure, I should
certainly respect his feelings. I can also gradually self disclose a little bit about myself.
Since self disclosure is reciprocal, Bob may also begin to self disclose a little bit also.
8) Write ou
t a sample dialogue, how the conversation might go in its
Hey, Bob, Its great to see you! How’s it going?
I’m fine. I’m actually busy right now
Oh, well in that case, maybe we can chat later in
I guess that would be alright
What evening works best for you?
Well, Heather works late on Thursdays, so that is probably best
That works great for me. I’ll meet you at Hooley’s
and I’ll buy you
at will work for me
I’m looking forward to hearing more about your car project.
iption of problem: ____ (out of 5)
Relation to topic from class: ____ (out of 5)
Dialogues: ____ (out of 10)
Analysis: ____ (out of 5)
Writing: ____ (out of 5)
Thought/effort: ____ (out of 5)
TOTAL POINTS: ________ (out of 35)
minus points (late) _______
98% A+ 34 93% A 32
88% B+ 30
83% B 29
78% C+ 27 70% C 24
60% D 21
59% and below F 20